Getting Started

We’re glad you found us!  You are not alone.  If you identify with us, we would like to share our solution with you.

We Share a Common Problem.
Many of us felt inadequate, unworthy, alone and afraid. We admitted we were powerless over lust.

Our addiction usually operates in secret, behind closed doors: pornography, masturbation, fantasy, dependency relationships, and elicit sex, as well as varied other forms of sexual stimulation, such as voyeurism, exhibitionism and fetishes.  Many of us lived a double-life: we displayed who we wanted to be on the outside; but, inside, we knew the secrets we were hiding.  Many sex addicts think they are the only ones struggling with this problem, or that they have a unique problem, worse than anyone else.

Attending Your First Meeting

Attending his or her first Sexaholics Anonymous meeting is always intimidating to the newcomer.  When we first entered SA, we had preconceived notions about what to expect there: “low-lifes”, “prudes” or religious fanatics who we wouldn’t want to associate with.  Sometimes, we were convinced that we weren’t “that bad” and could just stay stopped if only we really gave it a good effort this time.  We found ourselves repeating this cycle again and again.  To our relief, we realized that, in SA, there were many people, just like us, who had tried, in futility, the same thing we had.  But, now, they had found a practical solution to live sexually sober.

We Have A Solution.
Instead of covering our feelings with compulsive sex, we began exposing the roots of our spiritual emptiness and hunger. And the healing began.

We know the shame, shock and discomfort that comes from bringing this topic to the light with others.  We suggest attending at least six meetings in order to give yourself time to get a feel for whether SA is for you.  What you can expect at an SA meeting is that you’re anonymity will be preserved, you won’t be forced to share or say anything, you won’t be given advice, and you won’t be asked to do anything other than participate as you see fit.  SA has no dues or fees for membership, no pledges to sign, no oathes to take.  The ONLY requirement for membership in SA and attending meetings is the desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober.